Talking about periods

How Talking About Periods is Actually Good For Your Relationship

By Laura Martin

 

Being open with a significant other about your period could improve your relationship.

The first time I told my boyfriend that I loved him, it was because of my period.

It wasnt because my period made me act extra emotional; I did it because of the way he acted about my period.

We were seventeen and had been dating about five months when our school choir was invited to perform in a competition in Cape Town. About four hours into our sixteen-hour bus ride from Joburg the worst possible thing happened—my period started unexpectedly.

Luckily, I was able to borrow pads and tampons from a few girlfriends. But no one had anything to help the excruciating cramps that were making me double over in pain. At first, I tried to hide what I was going through from my boyfriend because I was embarrassed, but he seemed so concerned I eventually told him. Periods and relationships, Argh! I expected him to be grossed out, but instead he told me to relax and opened the iTunes app on his phone. Scrolling through the songs, he selected the most relaxing music he could find, gave me his headphones, told me to close my eyes and listen, and then started to give me a shoulder massage.  

How could have known that distracting myself with music was one of my tricks to getting rid of cramps? I don’t know. But what I do know is that the simple gesture meant so much to me that I couldn’t help but say those three words for the first time. Today, I still know I can count on him to help if I am feeling bad, because of cramps or anything else. By being open with him about my period, I was able to see another side of him—one that made our relationship stronger.

While it can be hard to talk about your period with your significant other, oftentimes it can result in unexpected benefits—like learning how someone will respond in a moment of need. Here are three other ways talking about your period could improve your relationship.

 

Reduce Awkwardness:

When it comes to periods and dating, being open about your period can make it easier to be open about other reproductive health-related topics. If you are sexually active, or considering becoming sexually active, you need to be able to bring up topics like sexual history, sexually transmitted diseases, contraceptives, and what you are (and are not) OK with overall. Starting these conversations can be hard, but if you have a history of talking about something as intimate as your period it can make things easier. If you are extremely uncomfortable even mentioning that you are on your period to your significant other, it may be a sign that you arent quite ready to take things to a physical level.  

 

Become More Comfortable:

Everyone has a period emergency occasionally. So how can your period affect your relationship? Well, while no one wants to make an emergency stop to buy tampons while on a date, there is a silver lining to experiencing something a little embarrassing in front of a significant other. If they are supportive - bonus points if they run to buy you tampons themselves - it tells you a lot about the type of person they are. Plus, if they see that you didn’t freak out when something “embarrassing” happened to you, chances are they will be more comfortable admitting when they need help with something potentially embarrassing, too.

 

Get To Know Each Other:

We all have awkward, funny, and sometimes even exciting stories to tell regarding the experience of “becoming a woman.” While you may not feel comfortable sharing all of those stories with your significant other - opening up about a few and asking them to open up about a few of their puberty stories - can be a great way to get to know each other on a deeper level. Sharing how you each navigated puberty can provide insight into each other’s insecurities, childhoods, important relationships, and life-shaping moments. Plus, you’ll both have a good laugh swapping stories about your parents’ awkward attempts at “the talk.”

 

The advice provided in this material is general in nature and is not intended as medical advice. If you need medical advice, please consult your health care professional.

 

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